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Addiction Of MASTURBATING? 6 Ways You Can Break It

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OVERVIEW

Hey friends! So, a few days ago I wrote an article about masturbation – it’s benefits and side effects on health. I have gotten so many questions from so many guys saying basically the same question which is: I’m addicted to masturbation. How to break masturbation addiction? I don’t know how to stop. Please help! What do I do?” So, I did my research. And recently as I thought about it, I realized, you know, I have struggled with the kind of like an addiction to food and binge eating(taking an example for better understanding). 

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We will use an example of binge eating for better understanding so you guys can relate much better. I use the term “addiction” loosely here. I’m not talking about a diagnosed addiction, but I’m talking about those cycles that you can’t seem to break free from. 

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You’re like trying and trying to stop this habit and you just can’t seem to, and there’s a lot of shame involved. And I think that addiction cycles, whether to masturbation or pornography or something else, I think it’s all very similar and we fight those addictions in a lot of the same ways. 

So, today I want to share six ways that you can break the addiction cycle of masturbation. So before we go any further, if you’re new here, welcome to BE HEALTHY BE FIT!

Now, the overarching idea for today’s article is the idea of neuroplasticity in your brain. If you’ve never heard of it before, don’t zone out. It’s actually a super simple concept. Neuroplasticity: The brain’s ability to reorganize itself by forming new neural connections throughout life. It’s the idea that when you do something enough times, your brain creates like a pathway. So whenever we face a trigger like loneliness, if we always binge eat, then our brain creates that pathway. So it’s like, “I’m lonely I binge eat.” 

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Our brain needs to start creating new and different pathways to break that addiction cycle. And so what I want to talk about today are six ways that you can start to change the pathways in your brain. So that whenever you hit those triggers, instead of automatically being routed down the path of masturbation in your brain and having to fight that, instead your brain says: “Here are other pathways that you can take.” Let’s move to our pathway builders.

WAYS TO MASTURBATION ADDICTION

#1 “FILL THE VOID”

Taking an example for better understanding(as a story) – When I was struggling with binge eating, there was a physiological need: I was hungry. I needed food. Just like our bodies are created with this physiological desire for sex. That’s a normal thing, it’s a good thing. But whenever there’s this addiction cycle present, when you want to stop something but you can’t, it’s because of something deeper. 

There’s more going on than just a physical need. So for me with the binges, yes I was hungry, but I was also lonely. That was my biggest trigger, the biggest void in my heart, and I was essentially trying to fill my loneliness with food. I’d be totally fine all day long – busy with classes and other stuff. But, when I got back to my dorm/hostel room in college at night, and all my friends are out with their boyfriends/girlfriends and I’m there alone. All I wanted to do was binge eat this huge family-size bag of pretzels/cookies. 

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It was like every pretzel/cookie I ate, I was hoping it would somehow fill or numb the loneliness I felt. But, it would never be able to do that because you can’t fill an emotional need physically or with food. I think masturbation can be that same way, where we try to use it to numb or fill voids in our lives that it can never fill.

So before I ever stopped binge eating, I had to start putting in place ways to fill that void in other ways. For me, that was friendships with people who loved me for me, seeing mentors to talk about some of my past struggles with and spending time with the things I love. Find that need and you will be able to break the bad habit.

As I started filling the void with those things, slowly – I’m talking months and years, not weeks or days. But slowly those things were able to fill the void of loneliness that binging never could.

#2 “GET SOME HELP TO BREAK MASTURBATION ADDICTION”

It’s so easy to think, “I have an addiction; I can fix it on my own.” But it is so important to have other people in our lives. Just the simple act of sharing your struggle with somebody else breaks some of the power of that struggle over you. 

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When something’s a secret, it’s magnified, it seems so much larger than life, but when we share that with somebody else and say, “Can you encourage me? Can you walk me through this journey?” That in itself just breaks some of the power over you. You can take counseling if you need it. Or first, you can talk to somebody that you trust. Just don’t take all the burden on yourself solely.

To get help from professionals click here.

#3 “EXERCISE”

Exercising releases endorphins in our brains. Endorphins are chemicals produced by the body to relieve stress and pain. It helps us feel better about ourselves and our life in general. It clears our minds. When we are tempted to give in to an addiction cycle like binge eating or masturbating, usually, its when our minds are cloudy and foggy and we’re not feeling good about ourselves.

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So exercising regularly, even if it’s for a few minutes a day or a few times a week, that can do wonders. And on top of that, building a new habit of exercise is also building new pathways in your brain, which is good practice for it.

#4 “TAKE ONE SMALL STEP”

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I tend to have all or nothing thinking. Meaning either I’m all into the binge or I never binge again. But that is not helpful thinking when it comes to breaking an addiction cycle because breaking an addiction cycle isn’t all in or all out. 

There is an in-between phase and you’re in that in-between place for a long time. So, the first small step for me was to leave two bites at the end of every meal. 

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When I saw food, I felt like I had to eat it, I could not stop myself. And so, I would binge an entire bag/pack of pretzels/cookies. A family-sized bag. I started to leave two pretzels at the bottom of the bag. That was hard for me to do at first, but I started practicing that as my small step. 

Once I got comfortable with that, I could add another small step. So if you don’t know the first small step for you, talk with someone you trust, whether that’s a mentor, a counselor, a friend. What do you think, what is the first small step that you can take? Be honest with yourself. 

#5″CELEBRATE EACH SUCCESS”

I remember going five days in a row without binge eating. I used to though that was amazing! But, at the end of that time, I binge eat and all I could think was – I cannot believe that I messed up AGAIN! I can’t believe I was in such a good streak and now I just did it again! 

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Jerry(imaginary character to help you understand better), you’re never gonna get over this! 

Jerry was so focused on the binge eating instead of being focused on those five days that jerry just went without binge-eating! That was amazing! You should not focus on what you didn’t achieve. You should always focus on what you have achieved even if it’s small. Learn to celebrate.

#6″BE KIND TO YOURSELF TO HELP BREAK MASTURBATION ADDICTION”

Breaking a cycle does not look like this. It’s not a straight pathway. It looks like this ➡️ There will be ups and downs. You’re gonna get better but, there are going to be ups and downs along the way. That is normal: it’s part of the process. 

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It’s so easy to get down on ourselves when we’re in a downward part of that journey, but that negative self-talk, that guilt, it perpetuates(keep-alive) the addiction cycle. It triggers it. 

When you start feeling guilty or disgusted or mad at yourself, it makes you want to do it again. You’re like, “Okay, well to make myself feel better, I’m gonna go binge or masturbate or … you fill in the blank.” So instead we need to be kind to ourselves. 

When you’re doing that self-talk in your head, say it out loud so you can hear it. So for me, it would have been like, “I can’t believe you just fell again! What a failure you are, Jerry, and you’re never gonna get better!” Say that out loud and then ask yourself ➡️ “Would I ever say that to a friend?” And the answer would be NO or at least it should be no! 

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Then ask yourself, “Well, what I say to a friend in my situation?” And then start saying that to yourself, because when you’re kind to yourself and when you say, That’s okay! I’m making progress. Yeah, I had an off day, but it’s okay. That is gonna give you the confidence you need it to break the cycle. 

I hope you found it helpful. That’s it for this article. Thank you for reading. I hope it can help you to live a better life/version of yourself.

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Aman Pawar
Aman Pawar is Certified Diet and Nutrition Expert. Also he is Certified Fitness Trainer. He also writes on Quora and his answers has generated more than 15k plus views in less than 6 months! For more info visit About Us page.
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